Are You Guilty Of Gossiping?


 

Have you ever gossiped about another person, or have you ever been talked about behind your back?

How do you feel when people talk about you behind your back, and when people reveal your personal details or weaknesses when you’re not there and able to defend yourself?

The golden rule says that we should do unto others as you want others to do to you. This is also true and relevant when it comes to gossip.

Why Do People Gossip?

Often when we talk bad about other people it is to make ourselves feel better about ourselves. By focusing on other peoples mistakes, failures or weaknesses we feel better about the things that are wrong in our own life. But just because it feels good, does it mean that it is right?

Gossiping Is A Sin

When we talk bad about other people we are sinning with our mouth and mind, you are sinning with your mind when you are cursing other people (cursing means talking evil of other people), instead of blessing other people (blessing means to speak well of).

You are cursing with your mind because often when we talk bad about other people we also think bad things about them, and we often tend to think more highly of ourselves since “we would never do or act that way.” When we are thinking higher of ourselves and lower of other people we are being prideful, and pride is what caused the devil to sin and be cast down to hell, so by knowing that we can understand that God takes pride seriously.

Are You Just Talking Or Are You Gossiping?

There’s one problem, and that is that sometimes we need to talk about other people in our lives and we need to get things out, so how can we know the difference about gossiping and getting things out?

If you’re unsure if whether you’re talking about another person in a right and decent way, then imagine that person standing right next to you every time you choose to talk about that person. Would they approve of what you’re saying about them? Would you dare to say those things directly to their face?

If you’re around a gossiper and you do not want to participate in the gossiping, then overcome their negative talk with something positive. When they talk bad about another person then say something good about that person instead.

Instead of joining in the gossiping you can say, “That’s sad to hear, but I will keep that person in my prayers and let’s hope that their situation improves.”

Romans 12:21 says “Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” So that means that when other people are doing evil things like gossiping you should not participate in it, but instead overcome their bad behavior with something good. That means that when other people are using their mouths to curse and gossip, you should use your mouth to bless and pray for other people.

Scriptures About Gossiping:

Proverbs 6:16

There are  six things that the LORD hates,  seven that are an abomination to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that make haste to run to evil, a false witness who breathes out lies, and one who  sows discord among brothers.

Romans 1:29

They were filled with all manner of unrighteousness, evil, covetousness, malice. They are full of envy, murder, strife , deceit, maliciousness. They are gossips, slanderers, haters of God, insolent, haughty, boastful, inventors of evil, disobedient to parents, foolish, faithless, heartless, ruthless. Though they know God’s righteous decree that those who practice such things deserve to die, they not only do them but give approval to those who practice them.

1Timothy 5:13

Besides that, they learn to be idlers, going about from house to house, and not only idlers, but also gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not. So I would have younger widows marry, bear children, manage their households, and give the adversary no occasion for slander.

Proverbs 16:28

A dishonest man spreads strife, and a whisperer separates close friends.

 

Psalms 15:1

Who shall sojourn in your tent? Who shall dwell on your  holy hill?  He who walks blamelessly and does what is right and speaks truth in his heart; who does not slander with his tongue and does no evil to his neighbor, nor takes up a reproach against his friend; in whose eyes a vile person is despised, but who honors those who fear the LORD; who swears to his own hurt and does not change; who does not put out his money at interest and does not take a bribe against the innocent. He who does these things shall never be moved.

Psalms 101:4

A perverse heart shall be far from me; I will l know nothing of evil. Whoever slanders his neighbor secretly I will destroy. Whoever has a haughty look and an arrogant heart I will not endure.

101:7

No one who practices deceit shall dwell in my house; no one who utters lies shall continue before my eyes.

 

James 3:5

So also the tongue is a small member, yet it boasts of great things. How great a forest is set ablaze by such a small fire! And the tongue is a fire, a world of unrighteousness. The tongue is set among our members,  staining the whole body, setting on fire the entire course of life, and set on fire by hell. For every kind of beast and bird, of reptile and sea creature, can be tamed and has been tamed by mankind, but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse people who are made in the likeness of God. From the same mouth come blessing and cursing.

Proverbs 16:28

A dishonest man spreads strife, and a whisperer  separates close friends.

Proverbs 17:4

An evildoer listens to wicked lips, and a liar gives ear to a mischievous tongue. Whoever mocks the poor insults his Maker; he who is glad at calamity will not go unpunished.

Proverbs 17:9

Whoever covers an offense seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates close friends.  A rebuke goes deeper into a man of understanding

 

Proverbs 18: 3

When wickedness comes, contempt comes also, and with dishonor comes disgrace. The words of a man’s mouth are  deep waters; the fountain of wisdom is a bubbling brook. It is not good to  be partial to  the wicked or to  deprive the righteous of justice. A fool’s lips walk into a fight, and his mouth invites a beating. A fool’s mouth is his ruin, and his lips are a snare to his soul. The words of a whisperer are like delicious morsels; they go down into  the inner parts of the body.

Proverbs 11: 17

Your own soul is nourished when you are kind; it is destroyed when you are cruel.

Ephesians 4:29
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

 

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